Services

Individual Counseling

My approach to working with partners is based on a trauma-informed, prodependence framework. I received training in the Multidimentional Partner Trauma Model through APSATS (Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists. Sessions involve resolving trauma experienced from the betrayal, grieving the loss of what you thought your marriage was, rebuilding trust in yourself and your intuition as well as learning self-compassion. For some partners, the betrayal completely severs the relationship making reconciliation difficult. But for many, there is the desire to heal individually as well as the coupleship and rebuild a healthier relationship moving forward. I will always support and validate the partners' desire to stand with their loved one through their addiction healing process and to stay connected with the hope and goal of healing the relationship.

Therapeutic Full Disclosure

What's going on? What happened? What's real? Who is my partner?

The are a few of the many questions you may be asking yourself.

After discovery the betrayer will often provide a drip, drip of information swearing that this "the whole truth and nothing but the truth." The pain is immense and disorienting but so desperately want to believe that this is the truth. Maybe even some healing starts to take place. Then, sometimes it months, weeks or even days before additional information is discovered. The is re-traumatizing for the betrayed partner and sets back the healing process as you wait and wonder what else there really is. It's very hard to heal when you don't know exactly what you are healing from. The truth is a crucial foundation to self-healing and relational healing. But sporadic disclosure is damaging. To mitigate the trauma and pain a partner experiences in learning the truth, I recommend a therapeutic full disclosure.

A therapeutic full disclosure is a formal planned, and professionally facilitated process led by trained therapists. It provides an opportunity for the person who has been betrayed to learn the full truth of their partner's acting out behavior. The disclosure process is the first step to rebuilding safety and trust: Truth.

I have helped countless partners through the disclosure process both as their individual therapist and in some cases solely as a disclosure guide.

Please feel free to contact me if you are a partner interested in doing a disclosure or for additional details about the process of doing a therapeutic disclosure.

Brainspotting

Where you look affects how you feel

Brainspotting is a therapeutic tool used to help clients process trauma they have experienced, either from their past or from the current trauma experienced from the betrayal.

Brainspotting locates points in the client’s visual field that help to access unprocessed trauma in the subcortical brain. BSP uses what are called “brainspots”—specific eye positions connected to the area of the brain where memories are stored. During a BSP session, the therapist helps the client find brainspots through the use of a wand and eye movements that experiment with his/her field of vision.

Brainspotting was developed by David Grand. For more information please to www.brainspotting.com